It’s a fact that we lose friends in the course of life. Girlfriends and boyfriends as well. But is it really worth to leave ex-girlfriends and ex-boyfriends all alone on road?
I believe we should have a good relationship with the Ex’s. Those are the people we once shared our lives sharing secrets. Every relationship that a man or woman once creates does remain part of their lives forever. It is simply impossible to get rid off people who have been once close to you.
People may think that an Ex would create problem in social life and also can bring misfortune for your new life partner. But, in reality it is just the opposite. Definitely, he/she will understand that someone else has taken his/her position in life. If your ex really loves you, he/she would not come to interfere, but would definitely help you to prosper in life.
You can find hundreds of examples where x-friends are in touch with each other despite one or both being in new relationships. In most of the cases, the conversation may be friendly or intimate, but it is not the same as between real bf/gf talk. It would be more like a chit-chat with an old friend. So I find no reason, why its wrong to go out and spare sometimes with the Exs.
But it becomes challenging when our ex come to you to carry on a secret relationship, which your new partner may not be aware of. That’s the situation where we should be aware of and sometimes it is the situation where we loose control and commit a mistake.
Your new partner may have made a way into your soul, but that doesn’t mean that you will completely forget your old flame. New partner may seem diamond to your heart, but to wear that diamond you need gold, which surely replicates the idea of your Ex.
What you say? How do you manage the relationship with ex?
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i’m friends with my ex’s. But i prefer to keep them at a distance and mostly just chat with them online.
@penny: thats what m talking about
I strongly disagree with you!.
i kinda agree. but it dusn’t always work like that with some people.
=)
in some cases, its better to leave them in the past. if u try to keep in touch with them, they come to you again and then “ti tin tin tin din” happens again
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Nice post.
There are some i agree and disagree in ur post.
First I would say EX gf/bf is someone who have betrayed or done something very wrong with you. and again what is the point of being touch with them? Most of them they become strangers to each other
In some case they stop the relatonship because they cant understand each other. In that case nobody hurt no one but reason is that dont work out. In that case someone will always try to make it work after being X also??
Then another thing is your present partner will surely disagree with that. May be deep inside. Not that he/she dont trust you but they will have the fear of loosin you.
As you say Ex are people whom shared your life once..So it will create some chemistry between them. No matter how long they have been away from each other. It will be the same. Once they meet that continues.
Human emotions are srtange. Most of them they just avoid them. Another they have Hi/bye contact. Another they are like close buddies.
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i try to break-up in peace
i keep contact with one, not much though
and one doesn’t talk to me coz its the way he wants it to be and it was my fault anyway, so im okay with it
its not easy to have a healthy relationship with an ex anyway, coz the things you’ve done with them, you are doing with someone else and share and all and it becomes ugly
but if someone is like those playgirl/boy type, no prob eh?
@Ca: Give me a reason why u dont agree?
@sHweeT: Yea! if ‘tin tin tin’ happens thats bad? I think i have mentioned that in my post.
@SoE: where? where?
@Xef: Lets think in a different prospective. An ex could result when parents force a couple to seperate, or by leaving someone for uncontrollable reason such as Talasemia!:S Or just someone who we rejected on our own ground. In such cases, i definately think being in contact with them is wise.
ps. I fully agree with ur 4th paragraph.
@mini: Do we have to share with Ex’s? I mean not as deep as with current bf i guess. Good that u try to breakup in peace. Even if u dont talk with one of them, i m sure u ll check on him somehow.
I agree your thoughts,the people who come to our lives are the people whov must have at a point glittered and we all should remember no human being is perfect and everyone is special in ways,perhaps thts one reason tht we try for another n see a gud in another which our ex dont have..having a heart and forgiving what ur ex did to you is the best,i know things wont be easy to forget but we all know..the one who forgive’s are the best hearted..
I sorta agree with you. But sometimes you just cannot maintain a friendship with an ex even if you want to. Not coz of peer pressure or the current person in one’s life. Its just complicated I guess :S
I’ve yet to meet a guy who is 100% okay with his girlfriend keeping in touch with her ex.
@shootingstar: agree with you. Forgiving is the hardest part, yet the best part if done
@SparkofSilence: Well, according to my experience, after couple of months from breakup it is hard to have a friendship. But when days go by and both starts to really move on with lives, friendship between ex is not that complicated.
@bulhaa: ya! there is something called jealousy!
i have to agree with bulhaa here.. but ur post ain’t bad at all.. i for once wont complain my guy if he keep in touch with his ex’s. i seriously wont as long as he doesn’t worry about me being friends with my ex’s. There is something called trust. If it’s not there in the relationship, if u keep it touch with ur ex’s or not, the relationship wont work out.
It’s perfectly all right to keep in touch with your ex’s if the separation were a mutual decision..
BUt………..
It does get awkward.. I mean.. lots of intimate moments.. words, pictures.. expressions.. unspoken feelings keep lurking below the surface..
Neh?
Besides.. it often makes your present partner a bit uneasy…
I think it all depends on the circumstances.. not ALL ex’s need to be kept in touch with.. and some need to be avoided like the plague!!
thanks all for commenting
have to agree with u, but in my opinion its easier said than done. if that relationship had been really strong its gonna be hard and awkward at first but once u overcome that phase i think itll go well. but then again there’s ur current gf not being ok with it and i guess its understandable. i wont call it lack of trust. its ok as long as she doesnt take it too far. heheh
I think I agree with your post in the light of my own personal experience.
Though after officially breaking up or just going our own ways, because we outgrew each other or found that the relationship was not working out according to our individual needs, the bond still remains and we meet up from time to time and exchange our experiences.
Since we would know the character of each other, it really helps when my ex can shed light on a problem currently in my life and help me solve it. Likewise, I do the same and it helps them, too.